Chinese media Pengpai and Hong Kong’s South China Morning Post (SCMP) recently reported that messages seeking someone to share kisses without dating are spreading to social networking services (SNS) and universities and bulletin boards.
No sex.Stop relationship immediately if you want either
“zuiyou” means “mouth friend” and only kisses, but does not develop into a lover and does not have sex. In addition, it is a kind of consensus relationship that requires no interference in each other’s lives and that the relationship should be terminated if either side wants to. Most of them are cases of “anonymous one-time relationships” in which people who do not know each other after kissing each other.
The word, which first appeared around 2008, has recently attracted attention online again. Analysts say that young people who are not confident of “dating” and who are not allowed to have conditions that require time, emotion, and money are looking for Jui foxes while wanting “touch with reason.”
Pengpai reported that young people who experienced the relationship between Zui Fox answered, “I’m worried about my emotional processing ability, so I’m afraid of having a real relationship,” and “It’s an alternative to looking for a situation where I want to have a real relationship but can’t for various reasons.”
Reflecting the situation such as lack of dating experience and low self-esteem
Regarding the Jui fox, there were negative reactions online, such as “It’s just an individual’s choice,” but “Barter, which does not respect one’s body and considers it a tool,” and “The young people’s way of thinking about love and dating is problematic. In addition, sexual harassment comments are posted in articles related to the Zuiyou, and the person I met as a Zui fox is asking for sex, Pengpai said. In response, he added that it is dangerous for experienced people to meet at home or in an enclosed space.
“zuiyou is not a true love experience,” said Pei Jun-feng, a researcher at Nanjing University’s psychological and health education center. “It reflects the situation in which many young people are not emotionally prepared for relationships due to lack of dating experience, low confidence, and trust issues.” He added, “At the same time, I don’t dare to meet for sexual purposes.
H.S HA
ASIA JOURNAL
